A RITUAL: This is Your Sign To Let Your Higher Self Design Your Day

Here’s exactly how to create a day that inspires all versions of you.

I'm writing to you from Copenhagen, Denmark, hi! Or I will say, hej!

Last Friday, I gave my higher self the reins and asked her to design a day that felt inspiring, intentional, and fully aligned.

I’m here with my husband, settling into our first week in the city, and I wanted this chapter to carry the energy of my higher self. But, not in a curated or performative way, but in a way that truly feeds her.

I wanted the day to feel like an offering to her. One that expanded her, excited her, and returned the favor for how often she guides and energizes me.

A quick tangent / sidenote: I have this strong theory that I’ve never had a past life in Copenhagen. How can I tell? Because being here makes me feel like a forward thinker. I’m not overly attached to outcomes, experiences—or dare I say—timelines. There’s no weird energetic residue, no emotional static. Just a softer, neutral rhythm that makes presence feel like the natural choice. Other cities can feel buzzy or sticky for me, sometimes quite dense. Copenhagen feels spacious and open, but at the same time not overstimulating and ungrounding. 

It hit me on a walk to dinner the other day: maybe it’s because my higher self loves it here. Like she’s the one steering us, rather than some version of me shaped by hesitation, old patterns of not-enoughness, or my internet brain.

I didn’t want the day to feel unattainable or overly indulgent. I knew I wouldn’t be booking a luxury spa or blowing the budget on a shopping spree. Because quite honestly, those things do not inspire me, never have. I wanted something that felt like her in a truer form. A day that felt attainable, elevated, layered with creativity, culture, and a bit of spiritual curiosity.

So below, I’ll walk you through the exact details of my higher self day—and offer tangible, easy-to-implement ways for you to design your own.

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Step 1: Wear The Outfit™

The Outfit is the one you know she’d reach for. It means dressing the part and keeping it comfortably elevated. Opt for the pieces your higher self wouldn’t second-guess but feels proud to wear.

I’m not talking about your favorite yoga pants or the sweater you always end up reaching for. I chose super baggy vintage jeans I thrifted a couple days ago, paired with a white tube top, a blue quilted jacket, and clogs. It felt Scandinavian-inspired (a look I’ve loved long before visiting Copenhagen) and unapologetically oversized—my favorite.

I like wearing clothes that aren’t always the most “flattering” by typical standards, and my higher self does not give a fuuuuuuck how others perceive her style.

Honestly, I would’ve second-guessed this outfit in other cities or back home. But my hope is to leave this trip dressing with more ease and zero apology.

Step 2: Pack the book she’s (actually) reading in your bag.

Bring a book that your higher self isn’t just “meaning to start,” but is probably already halfway through. Fiction, nonfiction, poetry, it doesn’t really matter. What matters is that she’s curious, engaged, and self-led in her learning or escape.

Slip it into your bag and start to read it while you’re waiting for your coffee or lingering over lunch. Let it be part of the ritual today, especially when you’re tempted to reach for your phone.

Let it remind you that you do, in fact, have time for the things that feed your mind. 

Step 3: It’s time to head out, but first, expand your aura. 

Before I walked out the door, I expanded my aura.

It’s much simpler than it sounds. I do this by closing my eyes and imagining my energy field expanding around me. I add light or a color I feel drawn to within the bubble. I stay with it for a few breaths, and trust that the intention has been set.

It’s a small act of becoming—or belonging—within your personal energy before stepping into a much bigger world.

Step 4: Grab brunch where your higher self is a regular. 

Choose a spot she casually drops into and frequents often. Somewhere you dream of having the time and rhythm to enjoy regularly. It doesn’t need to be fancy or new—just thoughtful and creatively inspiring to her in some way. A place with beautiful light, good energy, delicious food (of course), and maybe even a preferred table by the window that feels like it’s hers.

Step 5: Let time s t r e t c h. This is a day of expansion, not stress. 

We showed up to the cafe I really wanted to try later than planned.There was a line. Like, a long line. The kind that would usually send me spiraling into Yelp searches, instantly searching for something “better” with no wait to avoid the stress and annoyance. 

But something in me was saying "Please chill, you really wanted to try this place, remember?” So we waited. I didn’t check the clock enough to know how long, but I’d guess 30-40 minutes, so not the end of the world.

The space was beautiful, and I think it’s pretty obvious from this Substack that spaces and settings inspire me, so I’m glad I didn’t walk off when I saw the line. 

I asked my higher self to order for me, and to my surprise I ordered an iced peppermint matcha. It felt random. I’m a cortado or americano drinker. I love a matcha occasionally, but rarely one without milk. The novelty of a new (and quite pretty) caffeinated drink held a bit of inspiration for me. It’s everywhere when we look for it. 

Step 4: After your breakfast / brunch / lunch, walk around a neighborhood your higher self would love to live in. 

Pick a neighborhood in your city, or a street in your town, that feels truly inviting and aligned for your higher self. Maybe it’s a tree-lined block with beautiful homes, or a street with charming shops, cozy bakeries, and ivy-draped fences.

After brunch, we stumbled onto a quiet street full of colorful homes and blooming roses. My higher self was loving it. Then I spotted a vintage Mercedes parked casually in front of one of the homes, and I laughed to myself. I’ve always dreamt of owning an even older one than my ‘97 Benz. It felt like a little wink from her.

As you walk around your chosen neighborhood, imagine what your higher self notices. How she carries herself, knowing she lives just around the corner. This is her everyday.

This isn’t a vision board moment. It’s more of a full-body calibration.Because when you’re walking alongside the manifestation, you’re not witnessing it from afar—you’re actually trying it on.

Step 5: Visit a Museum. 

Okay, this is the one step where some of you might be thinking: “Ehhh…”Not everyone is a museum person and I totally get it. But Kam and I are, and no matter where you live, there’s almost always something: a local gallery, a small exhibit, a community art space.

This might be the step that feels most out of your comfort zone and that’s exactly why it works so well. It gives the day a more experiential, playful, and creative tone. This isn’t just about sticking to routine; it’s about creating space for your higher self to take something away from the day.

Personally, museums are some of my favorite spaces. And from a Feng Shui perspective, they carry a fascinating energetic contrast with a unique balance of yin and yang.

The architecture often leans very yang with high ceilings, open layouts, clean lines, monochrome walls, reflective floors. But the art? The art is pure yin: emotionally charged, layered with pattern and color, rich with story. There’s a stillness, a reverence, an energy in the air that feels sacred. We treat museums like libraries, and that hushed volume in our footsteps and voices is yin. 

The result is equilibrium. And when we’re in spaces that carry that kind of balance, we become more open. Ideas start to land. Inspiration moves and energy flows.

We chose to visit Designmuseum Danmark, and I didn’t expect it to feel like a download, but that’s exactly what happened. It’s one of the most thoughtfully curated and intentionally presented museums I’ve been to—which tracks, given this is a city that treats design as a way of life.

It lit me up. It reminded me that my higher self isn’t limited by her interests. She’s not “just” intuitive or “just” creative or “just” spiritual. She’s all of it, layered, intersecting, and unapologetic.

Step 6: A Toast to YOURSELF.

At some point in your day, pause for a little toast…to you.

There’s something about a really good bevvy in a special glass that always hits. We stopped at a café after the museum to rest our feet and share our favorite parts of the experience. It was such a simple moment, but it felt like a reset.

When you say cheers, acknowledge the fact that you chose this experience. That you said yes to showing up differently today.

I ordered an elderflower soda—basically my dream drink. I love anything elderflower, and I’m fully addicted to fizzy water. Plus, it’s very common here in Copenhagen, and I’m into it.

I chose not to drink alcohol on my higher self day. It wasn’t out of rigidity, but because I wanted to stay aligned with clarity and expansion. A glass of wine felt like it might blur the vibe a bit. 

Your higher self might be craving a crisp glass of wine or cocktail. Go for it. She won’t steer you wrong. 

Step 7: Let the day still be good, even when it rains.

It poured on us later. Just, straight up dumped rain. It came in quickly, like a rom-com director cued it. We ran into a taco spot out of necessity and ordered some chips and salsa to let the rain pass. An hour went by and it was still pouring, so we made our way home in it. 

I had no umbrella, my jacket had no hood. So there I was, shuffling around Copenhagen letting my baggy jeans grow even heavier as the fabric around my feet was soaked.

The rain was annoying, but my higher self did not care. I recommend you DON’T let inevitable hiccups and disruptions on your special day pull you from presence.

Step 8: Make evening choices that make sense for her.

The evening is your free space.

Resist the urge to over-plan or script out the rest of your day from here. Just keep rolling with the energy you’ve already cultivated. Don’t assume it has to end with a big “moment,” an epiphany, or some huge intuitive upgrade.

This kind of day can simmer quietly and still create a shift. The day is designed as a soft reset in how you receive and seek inspiration moving forward.

After a shower, I got into bed way earlier than usual. That felt like what she needed. I had Netflix playing on my laptop while sending long, detailed voice notes back and forth with friends back home—friends who see me fully, every version of me, including my higher self.

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Higher self days don’t have to be extravagant to be expansive.

Looking back, mine included brunch, a museum visit, a slow walk through a beautiful neighborhood, and getting caught in a rainstorm. Very pleasant, but I would not say it was performative or out of touch? However please, correct me if I’m wrong. 

We often think healing or alignment has to look like excelling. But I think it’s more about choosing deliberately, and consistently, to move with intention.

You don’t have to wait for a vacation or a new city to try a higher self day. I urge you to schedule one now, sometime this season, rather than put it off. But if you do find yourself in Copenhagen... go to the design museum.

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